We’ve all been there … you’ve been invited to a wedding & you’re wondering about the gift.
Do you take a gift to the wedding? Should you find something personal or buy off of the registry? Is a gift card the “lazy” way? What do couples REALLY want?
I decided to put together a little FAQ post that covers some do’s & don’ts of wedding gifting!!
DO give a gift (or card) to the happy couple but DON’T feel obligated to bring it to the wedding. Giving a gift to the bride & groom shows the them how much they mean to you & how happy you are for this new phase of life!! But bringing a gift TO the wedding can add additional transportation complications & add stress on them! I suggest sending the gift prior to the wedding, or giving a card instead!
DON’T feel pressured to spend more than what you’re comfortable with. 25% of wedding guests spend under $50 and 50% spend between $50-$100. Decide on what you’re comfortable with prior to shopping & don’t feel guilty for how “little” you may think it is. Your presence at this monumental day will mean the world to them!!
DON’T feel obligated to purchase a gift if you are in the bridal party and/or you purchased a gift for the Wedding or Bridal Shower! You have already showered the happy couple with your well wishes through a gift, either because you were a guest at a wedding event prior to the wedding OR you have been apart of the bridal party. Of course, you’re welcome to continue your spirit of giving but it is not expected!
DO send a gift if you cannot attend! It’s customary to send a gift as a way of saying “Congrats” even if you cannot attend their big day!
DON’T purchase an item not on their registry. The bride & groom registered for these items for a reason; straying from the list because you *think* they want something might not be the best idea. If you do stray from the registry, provide a gift receipt for the item you purchase. (In fact, ALWAYS provide a gift receipt in case they receive 2 of the same thing or no longer need the item they registered for!)
DO send cash instead of a gift. Cash is not tacky and neither is a gift card! If the registry items you’d like to purchase are unavailable or you don’t see something you’d like to gift, giving cash or a gift card is a perfectly reasonable solution!
Brides & Grooms: in order to help ease guest’s stress over gifting, Zola is the perfect solution!! Their wedding registry is an amazing option for your registry needs and here are a few ideas to get your wheels turning before adding (or taking away) from the items on your list!!:)
What additional wedding gifting questions do you have? I’d love to answer them!