The Do’s & Don’ts for Wedding Gifts

August 1, 2017

We’ve all been there … you’ve been invited to a wedding & you’re wondering about the gift.

Do you take a gift to the wedding? Should you find something personal or buy off of the registry? Is a gift card the “lazy” way? What do couples REALLY want? 

I decided to put together a little FAQ post that covers some do’s & don’ts of wedding gifting!!

  • DO give a gift (or card) to the happy couple but DON’T feel obligated to bring it to the wedding. Giving a gift to the bride & groom shows the them how much they mean to you & how happy you are for this new phase of life!! But bringing a gift TO the wedding can add additional transportation complications & add stress on them! I suggest sending the gift prior to the wedding, or giving a card instead!
  • DON’T feel pressured to spend more than what you’re comfortable with. 25% of wedding guests spend under $50 and 50% spend between $50-$100. Decide on what you’re comfortable with prior to shopping & don’t feel guilty for how “little” you may think it is. Your presence at this monumental day will mean the world to them!!

  • DON’T feel obligated to purchase a gift if you are in the bridal party and/or you purchased a gift for the Wedding or Bridal Shower! You have already showered the happy couple with your well wishes through a gift, either because you were a guest at a wedding event prior to the wedding OR you have been apart of the bridal party. Of course, you’re welcome to continue your spirit of giving but it is not expected!
  • DO send a gift if you cannot attend! It’s customary to send a gift as a way of saying “Congrats” even if you cannot attend their big day!

  • DON’T purchase an item not on their registry. The bride & groom registered for these items for a reason; straying from the list because you *think* they want something might not be the best idea. If you do stray from the registry, provide a gift receipt for the item you purchase. (In fact, ALWAYS provide a gift receipt in case they receive 2 of the same thing or no longer need the item they registered for!)


  • DO send cash instead of a gift. Cash is not tacky and neither is a gift card! If the registry items you’d like to purchase are unavailable or you don’t see something you’d like to gift, giving cash or a gift card is a perfectly reasonable solution!


Brides & Grooms: in order to help ease guest’s stress over gifting, Zola is the perfect solution!! Their wedding registry is an amazing option for your registry needs and here are a few ideas to get your wheels turning before adding (or taking away) from the items on your list!!:)


What additional wedding gifting questions do you have? I’d love to answer them!


xo! kat

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